• Recognize the signs of narcissism in your friend’s behavior: If your friend is always talking about themselves, seeking constant attention and admiration, and lacks empathy for others, then they might be a narcissist. But don’t worry if you’re not sure – just ask yourself this simple question: “Does my friend make me feel like I’m their accessory or their therapist?”
• Understand that leaving a narcissist friend may be difficult and emotionally challenging: It’s like trying to break up with someone who thinks the world revolves around them. But remember, YOU are the star of your own life story!
• Set boundaries with your friend by communicating clearly and assertively about what you will no longer tolerate in the friendship: For example, let them know that you won’t put up with being constantly criticized or belittled anymore. And if they try to argue back? Just say “Sorry buddy, but I think it’s time we see other people.”
• Consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor to help you navigate this process: They can provide guidance on how to deal with any emotional fallout from ending the friendship (like guilt-tripping texts) as well as offer coping strategies for moving forward.
• Prepare for potential backlash or manipulation tactics from your friend, such as guilt-tripping or gaslighting: Remember – these are classic moves in the Narcissistic Playbook! Don’t fall for it; stay strong!
• Stay firm in your decision to leave the friendship and do not allow yourself to be drawn back into it through emotional appeals: You deserve better than someone who only cares about themselves!
• Focus on self-care during this time, including spending time with supportive friends and engaging in activities that bring you joy: Take up yoga! Try painting classes! Do whatever makes YOU happy!
• Be prepared for the possibility that your former friend may continue to try to contact you after you have ended the relationship. Block their phone number if necessary: You don’t need that kind of negativity in your life!
• Remember that leaving a toxic friendship is an act of self-love and empowerment, even though it can be painful at first: Think about all the amazing things you’ll have time for now! Like binging on Netflix or learning how to knit.
• Keep in mind that narcissists often have a sense of entitlement and may not respect your decision to end the friendship: But guess what? It’s YOUR life, not theirs!
• Do not engage in arguments or try to convince your friend why you are leaving, as this will only fuel their need for attention and control: Instead, say “Thanks but no thanks” – just like when someone offers you kale chips instead of real potato chips.
• Avoid blaming yourself for the problems in the friendship, as narcissists tend to deflect responsibility onto others: Don’t fall into their trap! YOU are NOT responsible for THEIR behavior!
• If possible, limit contact with mutual friends who may be used by your former friend to manipulate or guilt-trip you: Just because they’re still hanging out with them doesn’t mean YOU have to!
• Consider writing down all of the reasons why you want to leave the friendship and refer back to them when feeling doubtful about your decision: Sometimes we need a reminder (or twenty) of why we made certain decisions.
• Remember that healing from a toxic relationship takes time and patience. Give yourself permission to grieve the loss of the friendship while also celebrating newfound freedom and peace: And remember – there are plenty more fish (friends) in the sea!
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